Mar 15, 2010

Arguments and Relationships

A friend of mine told me a story that had been told to him by one of his friends. This person (the friend of a friend) was in the middle of a heated argument with his wife and when he went to yell, he farted. He started laughing and effectively ended the argument by "hugging it out." Afterall, who can argue after something like that.

The story got me to thinking about relationships and arguments in general. Every argument I've ever had in a relationship, in retrospect, was unnecessary. They almost always stemmed from one of the other person being jealous, depressed, fearful, or insecure. Think about every argument you've ever had with a significant other... Think about what the arguments were about...

At this point in my life, I know the type of relationship I'd like to be in. I'd like to be in one where the other person and I can discuss things without them escalating. I've made enough stupid relationship mistakes in my life by now to know that nothing good comes from bottling shit up and then blowing up like some sort of explosive charge. Sure, there is the need for some type of discussion and argument but almost all other arguments in relationships that stem from one of those four places is unnecessary.

Of course, everything isn't always sunshine and roses...

hug it out.
(Farting is optional.)

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